Reviews for 3 Libras Lyrics

I agree with most of all of your interpretations and I have a few of my own but too many to list here, so for the sake of brevity and sanity I will not. What's really on my mind is that I'm sure Maynard and Co. read our interpretations when they're stoned and just sit back and trip out on all the different meanings and variations that their music takes on. "Shit. Fuck. We created a monster." Ha hah, sure they do, they're only human. Just my two cents. Good times. "One shape, one womb, one resolve."

This song is amazing. The raw emotions, the honesty, the beauty, and the sadness. It reflects the last two years of my marrage and this past year of my divorce and seperation. The one person I thought I knew, loved, and gave my love uncondtionally too, only to be disappointed with the pain of not being loved the same way. Not being seen. Being so open and intuned with your emotions and innner self, only to be disappointed and overlooked. This song really opened my eyes to true nature of humans and how selfish one can trully be.

I think everyone goes through a time when they feel like they aren't being seen by someone they truly care about. It has happened to me; but, the thing that keeps me going is that there are so many people in this world. Why be obsessed with one within this area, when your soul mate can be across the country/world waiting for you. If it doesn't work, then it wasn't meant to be.

I know these words are hard to take, but in order to move on and find our soul mate, we must accept it.

Although I don't truly know the repurcussions of a break-up, but if it wasn't meant to stay, then it wasn't meant to be.

Dwelling on this sadness leads to a darker depression, leads to delusions where we think that no one loves us (I have expierienced that). It is extremely hard to recover, but when we finally get over that hump, we realize that there is more for us to look at and be happy about.

In the end we get wiser with our decisions, and in the process we finally meet Mr./Ms. Right, and all of that regret goes away. Cause we finally found our soul mate, and nothing can change that.

As I read these stories, I just feel the same thing for each one of them. It seems like each person has found someone who fits their criteria to a dime, but there is just one thing that is missing. The feeling isn't mutual.

I hope that everyone who has told their stories here have gotten better mentally and physically, cause that is really all I can wish.

There is someone for everyone, but the chances of them being in the local area are slim. We don't know where we will truly be in ten/fifteen years, all we can hope for is that our search will be finished by then.

I am currently in a relationship in which I am not "seen". It is a horrible feeling to love someone who does not know you, see you, or seem interested. Mostly I think it is the fact that we have little in common, and have been together for 5 years, I am sure every relationship fizzles to a degree, but this feels wrong and hurts. I want out, but we have a child and I stay because of that. It is very "difficult not to feel a little bit disapointed and passed over". This song allows me to wallow in self pity over my circumstances at times, and to want to make them better at others. Thanks Maynard and A Perfect Circle.

One of his gifts as a songwriter is to take situations, boil them down into basic emotions, then re-expand them in order to make them specifically vague. This allows the listener to see what they want to see, a sort of musical Rorschach. That being said, here is my interpretation.

I met a woman about a year ago who fits my interpretation of this song perfectly. She would occasionally seem interested in me, and I had quite a bit of interest in her. Unfortunately we are both doctors and the situation which brought us together could ill afford any awkwardness which may come from making our feelings obvious to eachother. I decided I would regret it if I never let her know, so I "asked her out". I put the quotations in there because I bumbled it so badly that looking at it retrospectively I hardly think it was a legitimate request for a date. Still, the intent was obvious despite the execution. What made the situation painful was that I was disregarded, not rejected. I can deal with a yes and I can deal with a no, but the subsequent apathy was very painful because I don't think it represented uncertainty.

She was scarred on the surface of her personality, so there was obviously more underneath. Due to this she over represented herself professionally. It suffices to say that I don't believe she could seperate her personal and professional lives. Keeping this in mind I may have had some success showing personal interest through professional avenues. In the group which brought us together I had a position which was different than other members. It generally fell on my head if things went bad, likewise when things went well no one noticed that I may have orchestrated it. So I felt it was my responsibility to maintain cohesiveness within the group. I couldn't sacrifice the integrity of our learning environment for my own personal gain. It was also apparent to me that it wouldn't take much to derail the train due to the volatile personality of the program coordinatior.

I felt that, at that specific point in time, I did what I could. I feel that I got the point across to her. I also think that I saw her for what she was despite her best efforts to keep everyone at a distance personally. Still, she couldn't see me because I couldn't reach her in the way she needed me to due to my percieved obligations. The program which brought us together ended and we went back to our respective cities. I wanted to tell her goodbye but she left too quickly.

I felt an attraction to her which went far beyond her beauty and I do believe in fate. Perhaps it was the wrong time and we were not who we needed to be yet. Unfortunately there may not be the necessary time in this life. I kind of think of her as my fallen angel and my tragedy, and I think my lack of volition in regards to our situation is my great failure.

Consider this... Maynard's mother is too sick to recognize him. I can't help but feel that a lot of this album is Maynard wrestling with his mothers condition and accepting that he needs to let her go now, literally, by taking her off life support. Of course I would never assume to know what he means in this song, or to assume I have any idea about their relationship and his struggle with that. But listen to this song with the theme of Maynard trying to get his mom to recognize that it's him, her son, trying to talk to her, and you might find it's another way to hear the song completely. Regardless, hauntingly beautiful.

Now, I don't mean to tell my life story here, when I review this song, but...

There was a girl that I had known for almost a decade, and I had loved her for almost that whole time. She had helped me through some rough times, and I had done the same for her, because I loved her.

She didn't know I loved her.

When I told her, she replied that she thought I was a brother to her, and that she couldn't return my feelings. I had already listened to this song for months before I told her, since it described exactly who I was.

Disappointed when she didn't see my feelings, passed over when she started dating another guy, and invisible when I sat off to the side and watched her break down and cry because she had her heart broken again, even while I consoled her.

After I told her I loved her, she and I could barely talk anymore, because she now knew the secret that I had kept from her for that long, and she couldn't reciprocate my feelings.

Now that she's dating another guy again, I've made it a point to just sit off to the side and look away, since I can't watch the cycle repeat again. She and I have known each other for so long that my sadness is hers, and her joys are mine. If she's happy, that's all I can ask for.

She doesn't see me at all. And that's the way I want to keep it, for her sake. I don't want to hurt her. And I know that if I watch her, that's all I'll ever do.

Really great sound to relate to the lyrics. Tragic And beautiful. I'm guessing he is meaning not being able to have a real meaningful and deep relationship with someone who is so damaged. Even if you see who they are at their core.

This song and I have a past...I have never read reviews of it and I am impressed? I'm glad we all seem to share the same love for the song. It means different things to all. Maynards meaning behind as I read in an interview once w him about this song as well as many others, he doesn't like to put what the song is "about" out there because he wants u and I to feel passionately about the song and lyrics in our own way, to really feel the song, but if u find ur meaning was totally off track, u may not get the same relief, result whatever u take from those lyrics. I appreciate that. This song stood on repeat with me, my dark borrowed bedroom, with a glass or bottle of whatever my poison was that night, sitting in my borrowed windowsill, demanding I drink and cry myself to sleep....I never felt depressed duringthe day busy, at nighti drank and listened to this song to be that hollow numb person instead of dealing w all I needed to...I felt those lyrics, I threw u the obvious.....apparently nothing at all......and years later, the same young person that was my party buddy, my bro, we found ourselves a lil older, drunk, again, and alone. Just having convo in the darkness with the glow of the stereo, and APC playing. And then 3 libras, we both cried, and made love. It was amazing.. and it never happened again. Now even further down the road, through all his endeavors and mine, we still stand behind eachother. He is an aspiring musician, and very talented. I was there to watch his new band he is so proud of debut in a battle of the bands. I wanted to cry I was so proud of him and his beautiful smile as he was finally right where he'd always wanted to be, happy, with his nusic on stage and happy w his band. That evening as we un loaded his equiptment from my SUV, he thanked me over and again for always being there. He told me I had to be there with him and he needs me behind him. I told how proud I was of him and that ill always be here always have been...we hugged and he kissed me. We got back n the suv, w our friend in tow, back to the bar....he had a gorgeous young lady waiting for him, and now I watch as they drive away...I've been in love w him for years......he is my best friend......you don't don't see me....

The first time I heard this song was only 1 week yfrom today ago. This song caught me, only because it relates to me in a sense. I was in a relationship with this girl for only 2 almost 3 months, but we hung out literally every day. We ended up breaking up a little over a month ago, and the sad thing is, I tried so hard to help her through her struggles. I fell madly in love with her, and she said she'd never break my heart. But once she got better, she told me all this stuff that shattered my world.............. She wanted to be friends, and I complied, but I'm still in love with her, and she moved on within a week, i'm still not over her, and it "KILLS" me to be around her, It's like I can't breathe, and she doesn't even care, i'm trying to move on, but we went through so much together in such a small amount of time. What she tells me is I broke her heart.......... i just don't know.

So, I did, I threw her the obvious that i'm still in love with her, but I'm just apparently nothing, nothing at all...........

This track really speaks to me at the momment, because in some ways it refelects my life. The fallen angel is this women im currently in love with, fallen and a tragedy because her life was recently ruined by a long term relationship that ended badly.
On my days off from work i go to cheer her up where she works, a coffee shop in town, she knows i love her and i think she dose see me but her recent hurt prevents her from doing anything about it, shes scared to get close to someone again so soon so she keeps me at arms length. I'll wait and keep a small hope but i'll most likely walk away in the end.

This song always remains vivid and fresh in my mind and I feel like I can always go back to it when I need something else (be it music or poetry or art) to explain the disasters and chaos in my life. Maynard's voice just seeps into your skin and fills your void in a sad way, but it's reviving at the same time.

The first time I played this song, the melody caught me because it was just so beautiful and honest. As I progressed from young to adulthood it made even more sense as I started making sense of the lyrics - when I started to really listen to them. I can see how people can get a religious interpretation out of them because they perceive Maynard to be singing about God's judgement and how he sees through everything and everyone, while loving them unconditionally.

This song deserves so much merit for being so meaningful, but alas, mainstream has turned its path to mostly souless music nowadays. The song itself is so affecting; I was always partial to sad music but this one just envoked a stillness and an eagerness to listen. I'm actually very enthused that there are others who intelligently appreciate Maynards vocals, lyrics, and music altogether. I smiled when I saw so many reviews. He's very poetic and truly an artist when it comes to A Perfect Circle. No frills and just honesty about the mess that is life.

As for personal experience: a very dear friend of mine became depressed for a while and before she started taking prescribed drugs to counter it, I stayed by her side. Her family wanted me to stay over all the time during this crisis and I would wake up with her on sleepless evenings and listen to her cry and explain how sad and confused she was. Although I accompanied her through this roller coaster of emotions and tried different ways of counselling her - in the end, whenever she looked at me, she would revert to back to her depression. At the time she was cured, she didn't even thank me; her mother had forced her one day. Instead, she gave credit to another girl who had simply told her to "feel better" and didn't even understand the dimensions of her sadness. But I felt it all and I wanted to understand. She just took me forgranted and started changing and turning into a different person. She became manipulative and even tricked my boyfriend a couple years later into going back to her (before we dated, I knew she liked him so I let her date him for a while, just to make her happy, but he never really liked her from the beginning. But she managed to beg him and play victim and turn me into a villain). She thinks she's such a martyr - I guess she was, if she didn't act so fake about it afterwards. And all I could do was absorb the impact and give her so many chances.

"Oh well. Apparently nothing at all."

And then, this reminds me of the time a guy tried to chase me after I suffered a very serious blow to my friendship with a girl I've been hanging out with for over a decade. She pretty much started talking and flirting with this person I seriously liked for almost a year and basically won him over. Through this wreck, someone else managed to see me for what I am. He defended me and was always interested about getting to know more of me. But I was ALWAYS thinking about the other one. I was only thinking about my own problems, especially when he made time around his full-time job to see me and hang out and take me everywhere to forget about things. I just wasn't ready to let things go - I was so angry with my friend but I didn't want to lose her over some stupid guy and ... I still had feelings for her then-boyfriend. Afterwards, I did realize her boyfriend was a douche and I finally got over him. But I messed things up with the one that was chasing me. I really didn't see him and I didn't know what I had until I lost it. I regret it so much and although he's less frequent on my mind, I still think of him in scattered thoughts and when I pass the places we'd been to.

As I read through the previous reviews, I couldn't help but chuckle when I read religious interpretations. And often people say that there is no wrong interpretation, that the artist creates for the observer to make their own interpretation. That can sometimes be true, but to say that there is no right or wrong answer feels a little too politically correct to me. As an artist I can tell you that sometimes the previous statement is absolutely true, but Most of the time I create art to express myself. To be seen. To be heard. What's one of the things Maynard is bitter about? ... "You don't see me." Right? Sounds to me like he's trying to express things to some of his past loves. Seeking a little bit of reciprocation, perhaps so that those wasted years won't be wasted after all.

I feel I must comment on two previous reviews which touched me... Firstly, when charlatan143 reviewed this song on 9/13/09, I really related to his experiences which this song prompted him to write about. I too am 29. Also, psychology is a major area of interest and study for me. When he writes that, "This song is a testament to every person that I've ever been with... empty." What I hear is that the connections which he tried to forge with those people were "hollow". If that's indeed the case, I can relate. Every time I had sex since the first time, it's felt empty. No matter how good the sex was, there was always something missing. Until my current partner of 5 years, who is also the Mother of my child. Just the other day, a friend and I were remarking to eachother how that whenever you're asking, "How will I know when I've found 'The One'?", you haven't found him/her. There's something sleeping in all of us that wakes up when you find "The One". You'll know it when there's absolutely no room for doubt.
Secondly, to Fenix who wrote a review on 9/27/09...
I'm still fighting bitterness. over the past 5 years, my fiancee/ex/fiancee/ex/fiancee/ex/fiancee/ex/and currently my fiancee have had a pretty rocky road. I've never been diagnosed with any sort of psychological or emotional disorder (that may be due to my familiarity with all the tests), but she has. There's no specific diagnosis, but the current one is schizo-affetive disorder (which I don't agree with). Past diagnoses include Borderline Personality Disorder (which is actually incredibly common in women according to the National Institute of Mental Health.).
What I hear in this song, is a description of what it's like to engage in a reciprocal relationship with someone with "Disorde de la Personalité Troublée". (It's said so much better in french, don't you think?) My heart goes out to you, Fenix... Everything you've described in your review about your ex, I've experienced at the hands of my woman as well. Yet I love her with an all-consuming fire and I just can't give up on her. No matter how poorly she's treated me, I always remember words of wisdom... "Don't Judge, because the same measure you use on others will be used on you." and, "How can you expect someone to know how to love unless they see it first?" as well as the definition of love given in 1st Corinthians, Chapter 13.

Here is my Synopsis, based on Subjective Interpretation:

"Threw you the obvious and you flew with it on your back - a name in your recollection, down among a million same." - I told you plainly and showed you in every way imaginable that I love you. But when I asked how I'm different than all the men before me, you said you didn't know. The line "a name in your recollection, down among a million same" is a corespondance with the name of the album - Mer de Noms, which is french for "Sea of Names".
"Difficult not to feel a little bit disappointed and passed over." - pretty obvious. The artist speaks plainly here.
"When I look right through... see you naked but oblivious... And you don't see me." - I see you. I see through your masks. I know you. But you're far away when we're making love.

"But I threw you the obvious just to see if there's more behind the eyes of a fallen angel... eyes of a tragedy." - Even though you didn't see me I still tried to show you every way I could that I see you and I love you, just to see if there's more behind your vacant eyes. I see a lovely angel inside of you, fallen and dying from the tragedies of your life.
"Here I am expecting just a little bit too much from the wounded, but I see... see through it all. See through, see you." - Here I am, asking you to love me back... but it seems you're just not capable. You can't see past your own wounds. You've become self-absorbed in your pain, but I can see through everything. I see your extravagant beauty and loveliness... your gentleness, kindness and fairness. All the lovely qualities that you radiate when you're not hurting me. The phrase," See through, see you." sounds like a double-entendre... serving two literary uses. Firstly, it can be heard as an extension of the previous phrase - "But I see, see through it all." Secondly, it can be said to her. As though wanting to say, "I see you and you're wonderful. See yourself, not your wounds."

"Cause I threw you the obvious to see what occurs behind the eyes of a fallen angel... eyes of a tragedy." - All this to say, I tried. I gave you my all that one last time to see if you would wake up from your slumber (to use the words of a closely related song on the same album).

"Oh, well..... oh, well. Apparently nothing... apparently nothing at all. You dont' see me." - I give up. You're too wrapped up in what's happened to you that you'll never reciprocate what I'm giving you of myself. (This is where maynard is giving in to his growing feelings of resentment and bitterness. From my own experience when you find 'The One' and you show yourself completely, you have given something that can only be given once and can never be taken back. If that's not reciprocated and if you're not loved back that leads to growing feelings of resentment that you fight because you know love is unconditional, But... after years is very tiring and it gets easier and easier with time to give in and give up. I continually remind myself of one of Aesop's Fables, "The Fox and the Sour grapes". Please look it up and read it if you're not already familiar with it. Great Wisdom there.

As I read through the previous reviews, I couldn't help but chuckle when I read religious interpretations.

And often people say that there is no wrong interpretation, that the artist creates for the observer to make

their own interpretation. That can sometimes be true, but to say that there is no right or wrong answer

feels a little too politically correct to me. As an artist I can tell you that sometimes the previous statement

is absolutely true, but Most of the time I create art to express myself. To be seen. To be heard. What's

one of the things Maynard is bitter about? ... "You don't see me." Right? Sounds to me like he's trying

to express things to some of his past loves. Seeking a little bit of reciprocation, perhaps so that those

wasted years won't be wasted after all.

I feel I must comment on two previous reviews which touched me... Firstly, when charlatan143 reviewed

this song on 9/13/09, I really related to his experiences which this song prompted him to write about. I

too am 29. Also, psychology is a major area of interest and study for me. When he writes that, "This

song is a testament to every person that I've ever been with... empty." What I hear is that the

connections which he tried to forge with those people were "hollow". If that's indeed the case, I can

relate. Every time I had sex since the first time, it's felt empty. No matter how good the sex was, there

was always something missing. Until my current partner of 5 years, who is also the Mother of my child.

Just the other day, a friend and I were remarking to eachother how that whenever you're asking, "How

will I know when I've found 'The One'?", you haven't found him/her. There's something sleeping in all of

us that wakes up when you find "The One". You'll know it when there's absolutely no room for doubt.
Secondly, to Fenix who wrote a review on 9/27/09...
I'm still fighting bitterness. over the past 5 years, my fiancee/ex/fiancee/ex/fiancee/ex/fiancee/ex/and

currently my fiancee have had a pretty rocky road. I've never been diagnosed with any sort of

psychological or emotional disorder (that may be due to my familiarity with all the tests), but she has.

There's no specific diagnosis, but the current one is schizo-affetive disorder (which I don't agree with).

Past diagnoses include Borderline Personality Disorder (which is actually incredibly common in women

according to the National Institute of Mental Health.).
What I hear in this song, is a description of what it's like to engage in a reciprocal relationship with

someone with "Disorde de la Personalité Troublée". (It's said so much better in french, don't you think?)

My heart goes out to you, Fenix... Everything you've described in your review about your ex, I've

experienced at the hands of my woman as well. Yet I love her with an all-consuming fire and I just can't

give up on her. No matter how poorly she's treated me, I always remember words of wisdom... "Don't

Judge, because the same measure you use on others will be used on you." and, "How can you expect

someone to know how to love unless they see it first?" as well as the definition of love given in 1st

Corinthians, Chapter 13.

Here is my Synopsis, based on Subjective Interpretation:

"Threw you the obvious and you flew with it on your back - a name in your recollection, down among a

million same." - I told you plainly and showed you in every way imaginable that I love you. But when I

asked how I'm different than all the men before me, you said you didn't know. The line "a name in your

recollection, down among a million same" is a corespondance with the name of the album - Mer de Noms,

which is french for "Sea of Names".
"Difficult not to feel a little bit disappointed and passed over." - pretty obvious. The artist speaks plainly

here.
"When I look right through... see you naked but oblivious... And you don't see me." - I see you. I see

through your masks. I know you. But you're far away when we're making love.

"But I threw you the obvious just to see if there's more behind the eyes of a fallen angel... eyes of a

tragedy." - Even though you didn't see me I still tried to show you every way I could that I see you and I

love you, just to see if there's more behind your vacant eyes. I see a lovely angel inside of you, fallen and

dying from the tragedies of your life.
"Here I am expecting just a little bit too much from the wounded, but I see... see through it all. See

through, see you." - Here I am, asking you to love me back... but it seems you're just not capable. You

can't see past your own wounds. You've become self-absorbed in your pain, but I can see through

everything. I see your extravagant beauty and loveliness... your gentleness, kindness and fairness. All

the lovely qualities that you radiate when you're not hurting me. The phrase," See through, see you."

sounds like a double-entendre... serving two literary uses. Firstly, it can be heard as an extension of the

previous phrase - "But I see, see through it all." Secondly, it can be said to her. As though wanting to say,

"I see you and you're wonderful. See yourself, not your wounds."

"Cause I threw you the obvious to see what occurs behind the eyes of a fallen angel... eyes of a tragedy."

- All this to say, I tried. I gave you my all that one last time to see if you would wake up from your

slumber (to use the words of a closely related song on the same album).

"Oh, well..... oh, well. Apparently nothing... apparently nothing at all. You dont' see me." - I give up.

You're too wrapped up in what's happened to you that you'll never reciprocate what I'm giving you of

myself. (This is where maynard is giving in to his growing feelings of resentment and bitterness. From

my own experience when you find 'The One' and you show yourself completely, you have given something

that can only be given once and can never be taken back. If that's not reciprocated and if you're not loved

back that leads to growing feelings of resentment that you fight because you know love is unconditional,

But... after years is very tiring and it gets easier and easier with time to give in and give up. I continually

remind myself of one of Aesop's Fables, "The Fox and the Sour grapes". Please look it up and read it if

you're not already familiar with it. Great Wisdom there.

A Perfect Circle could not have done a better job at this song... I suffer from schizoaffective disorder, depressive type and I find that this really calls out to me in so many ways that I can not even write down or express into words in any way... there are many times that I sit and feel that the world just passes me by while I sit and scream for someone, anyone to just stop and help me and take away the pain that I will feel until the day that I die...